When we disagree about a topic we care about; we tend to do one of the following: *

Avoid conflict and individually do what needs to be done if we do anything.

One or both of us get very passionate about talking it out, I don’t feel heard.

We can discuss superficial topics but avoid any deep issues due to fear.

Mostly, only one of us brings up conflict topics, then we work together to resolve it.

We share and discuss what we think because we feel safe and know the other cares.